"I have found your dilators really helpful, but am now ready to progress, and for the first time in years, I'm finally feeling optimistic! I would be grateful if you could give me some suggestions as to how to progress from the dilators, because I want to avoid the disappointment of getting something I find difficult to use. I would really welcome your advice."
So, What Comes After Dilators?
Once you feel comfortable with your largest Sh! dilator (size 4 - 1 inch in diameter), the next step is to explore products that gently help your body continue adjusting while offering different sensations and possibilities.
Here are a few options we recommend:
The Wirly 3 Dildo - Non-Vibrating or Vibrating
The Sh! Wirly 3 slim dildo is a popular choice for those ready to transition from dilators. This dildo is made from the same body-safe silicone as our dilators, so it feels familiar. It offers a slightly larger size at 1.19 inches in diameter. Like the Sh! Vaginal dilators, the Wirly 3 dildo is handmade by our lovely team in our studio in London.
The insertable length of this dildo is just shy of 7 inches and the diameter is 1.2 inches. Bear in mind that you don't have to insert the full length of you don't want to - this is personal prefrence.
Wirly 3 is available in a non-vibrating version and also a vibrating version. Vibration can help relax tense nerve endings, which can be helpful when dilating. Also - vibes are great if you enjoy a gentle internal buzz!
The Warming Vibe - Affordable & Body-Safe
The sensual Warming Vibe is affordably priced at just £29.
One of the first things you'll notice about the Warming Vibe is its simple, elegant design. The smooth shaft, with its gentle bendability, makes it very body-friendly.
The insertable shaft measures 4.3 inches in length and 1.2 inches in width, featuring a slightly tapered tip for comfortable insertion. The textured tip provides gentle stimulation for the G-spot, and it also includes a warming function. The added warmth enhances comfort, which can be particularly helpful for those building confidence with penetration.
This vibrator is made from silicone, which is the best material for dilators and sex toys.
The G-Spot Vibe - Slim & Simple
The Cuties Slim Vibrator is another wonderful choice for those looking to explore vaginal play. Its slender shape and gentle design make it perfect for building confidence (it's a modest 1.2 inches in diameter).
Crafted from soft, velvety silicone, the Cuties vibrator feels smooth and comfortable during use. The long handle allows for easy holding and positioning, helping you find the angle that works best for your body. The curved tip is designed to naturally follow your body's shape.
The Cuties vibe is fully waterproof, making it an excellent option for use in the bath or shower, where many feel most relaxed and comfortable while dilating.
Remember, there’s no “right” timeline for progressing from dilators. Some people take weeks, others take months - and that’s completely okay. What matters is that you feel ready, and choose products that make this next step feel positive.
We’re always here if you need advice or have questions. You’ve already made incredible progress - and this next step is something to feel proud of :)
Explore our full range of beginner-friendly toys here, or feel free to contact us anytime for personalised suggestions.
We hope this helps!
Love, Team Sh! xx
